Becoming or being single in your 20’s for some can be depressing prospect. You’ve got the job, the friends, maybe you’ve moved out, you have loads of energy and you want to find someone to make loads of great memories with. Being in your 20’s is a confusing age, some of your friends are still out partying every night and some are getting married and having children. You’re trying to find a balance; should you go travelling or should you find someone to settle down with? So many questions, so many choices.
There are a lot of great reasons to be in a relationship, but as this post says, when you’re in your 20’s you need some time to be single. You need time to find out what you really want out of life and to become a functioning adult on your own. Being single during this time allows you to make decisions that solely benefit you, and it allows you to become totally content and gain confidence in who you are.
I have found that there are a number of people that begin to resent their partners if they have been in a relationship from a young age. Maybe they feel they have missed out on going out with friends, or maybe they couldn’t travel because they had children or other commitments, or maybe they wished they had dated more. Not a nice thought I know, but unfortunately it’s not uncommon and if someone begins to resent their partner, it hardly ever ends well.
Being single and having that time to be totally yourself, with no one to answer to, to do exactly as your please; you can be sure that you will never be the one that resents your future partner. You will know that once you meet someone you will have done all the things you wanted to do alone, and that’s not to say there wont be hundreds of things you want to do with them, but you wont feel like you have been held back by them if they didn’t wish to do the same things as you.
Being single and dating also allows you to decide what you want in a partner and what you really don’t want. When you’re young and haven’t had the chance to meet many potential partners, its hard to know if the person you are with is exactly who you want or even what you deserve. (Unless of course you’re one of those lucky people who does “just know”!). It can take some time to build up your confidence as you grow and it is likely that some people settle because they do not yet know their worth.
Take time to love yourself, to know what you want, to travel, to make friends and date…. Don’t have any regrets, and when you do find the one, you will be your own person and you will know what you want out of life and out of them and you will never look back and think what if.