Thinking too much about the past or the future, robs us of the present. We can spend hours, days, weeks, even years thinking about our past and worrying about our future. Each minute that we use up doing this, is one more minute we lose of our present life and one more minute added to our past that we have wasted. We have to learn that what’s in the past can never be changed no matter how much it hurts. We can think about things a thousand times and it wont bring us any relief. And In terms of our future, its great to dream, but those dreams will never come true if we don’t start today. Thinking gets you nowhere.
It’s very difficult to live in the present and most of us don’t even know if we are or not. You could’ve had a bad day at work and you come home and tell your partner all about it….why? You are just prolonging your angry or sadness, and its such a simple thing but we are all guilty of it.
It’s only natural to think about the past and the future but, the present becomes the past and the future becomes the present quicker than we realise and so we need to make the most of it.
The quote that I try to live by is “If it wont matter in 5 years, don’t think about it for more than 5 minutes”. This quote really has changed my life, especially with topics like money and relationships. I have pieced together a few tips that help me try to live a more present life and of course I’m guilty of worrying about my future and thinking about the past, but these are a few things I find help.
Forgive immediately. A very difficult task but we need to realise that not everyone thinks and acts in the same way as we do, people will hurt us, but that’s not a reflection on you, and you need to forgive, to give yourself the freedom to move on from other people’s mistakes. This doesn’t mean you need to forget, but forgiveness allows us to be the bigger person and being able to truly forgive will allow the process of moving on to be much easier. We may never understand people’s motives, but we can choose to understand that they are different and don’t see things the way we do
2. Be thankful.
Try and find the good in everyday. Be thankful for who you have and what you have, rather than what is missing.
Smiling will automatically make you feel more positive and you are much less likely to think about negative things if you’re smiling.
4. Keep busy.
If you’re anything like me, any down time you have, is the time when you start to worry or feel sad about the past. If you’re going through a particularly bad time you really need to force yourself to keep busy. It doesn’t matter what it is, maybe join the gym or simply clean your room. Keeping your mind occupied with a task in front of you removes any chance of negatives thoughts filling your head.
Accept what has been, and accept what the future will bring. No amount of thinking will change your future, you need to act to make changes to that. And no amount of dwelling on the past will ever be able to change what has happened. Everything has happened for a reason, you should be proud of how far you have come and all those things that have hurt in the past have made you the amazing person you are today. Acceptance is hard, but to move on and allow yourself to live fully in the present, it is one of the most important obstacles to overcome.