No matter how perfect someone may be, no relationship will work if you rely upon them for love. Looking in someone else for validation that you deserve to be loved will always put a strain on a relationship.
Before entering a relationship you must learn to love yourself first and know that no matter what happens, you deserve to be loved. One of the most important reasons for this is, if in the worst case scenario they leave, you won’t have to question yourself, you will be happy in the knowledge that they were not the only person that loves you and that you haven’t lost everything.
If you’re in a relationship and you rely upon them to provide you with all the love you feel you need, you are firstly putting pressure on them to live up to your love expectations and if the end should ever come, all that love will be ripped away and trust me when I say, that is the worst!
Before entering a relationship we most spend time and energy on ourselves, becoming a person we are truly happy and content with. We should be able to look in the mirror everyday and need no other validation than our own that we deserve love.
The more time and effort we spend on ourselves; will build confidence, will show to others we don’t need them, we know our strengths and weaknesses and this in turn will make us more attractive to others.
It’s a lovely feeling to know someone doesn’t need you, they just want you, and that’s what self love will help you achieve.